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To FORGIVE is to HEAL…..














Joy if shared with others doubles and pain if suppressed multiplies, its the norm of human behaviour and living.

Injury of the b

ody heals within the permissible time but injury of the heart takes a longer time and at times doesn’t even heal. We just cant let a hurt get away from us that easily, we hold on to it, think, assume, imagine, estimate and finally believe that sorrow triumphs over happiness and allow it to play a dominant role in controlling our psyche.

This is a very normal phenomenology of human psychology.

Our brains neurobiological process is very complex and we add more complexity and stress to it by burdening it with our miseries.

Actually more than the hurt the hurt giver causes us a lot of pain which wounds us predominantly. Take any situation, like someone deliberately passing an unfavourable comment on you, your close friend fails to understand your deeply hurt feelings, your siblings subconsciously affirms you of your failure, your partner doesn’t stand up to your expectations, you don’t get appreciated for your efforts, when you are not loved back,a heart piercing insult, a blow to your ego and so many alike circumstances. And all this affects our mental health status.

But a human is no human without humanity if he doesn’t apply this doctrine in his interpersonal relationships.

” Let Go & Forgiveness ” approach has a tremendous subconscious effect on human psychology. Let go the pain, the ache, the grudge, the injustice and be free from the bondage of pain & suffering.

Its like a free trip to hell, shortens your life span, fastens your death pace and makes you miserable & a unhappy person. And about the doer, he has long back left your territory,its you who is holding back to him and making him a part of your daily life.









Unforgivness is a poison you drink everyday, hoping that the other person will die. You shelter & protect the pain to an extent that over a period of time it becomes a part of you and you don’t even realise this. It makes you bitter shallow & harsh as time passes and unsweetens you.

The forgiver is always at peace and serenity when he frees himself of the grievance captivity. Forgiveness & Kindness like a boomerang always returns. So don’t worry let your anger & grief flow out from your self with no U turns. I assure, it will make you feel more light more bright and will add more euphoria to your life.

Forgiveness of others is a gift to yourself. Forgiveness is an attribute of the strong, it requires a lot of courage to pardon the doer who afflicted you with a pain, anger or an insult. But when you forgive, you let go the doer and dont chain yourself to him, you are free from slavery now.

It makes you more matured, more receptive more humble and above all more favorite to God.

When you cant decide between Forget and Forgive,Pick One.




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” 7 Deadly Sins – make them a part of life…….”










The identification and definition of the seven deadly sins has been a fluid process since their history
The deadly sins aka cardinal sins are designated by the Holy Bible to educate & instruct the human race. These deadly sins do not belong to any category of sins but they are the origin of the other sins..
Its been said that a person who commit these sins ” shall not inherit the Kingdom Of God “.

But after a lot of lengthy negotiation with my thought mechanism i thought of reversing the roles of this sin in a positive aspect.


1) Envy (Envy the goodness in others and practice it ) :
Envy, a very natural feel and the highest form of jealousy. To appreciate someone, requires efforts but envy comes easily and instantly. Jealousy is the jaundice of the soul and a mental cancer. We always want to change places with people who are more happier & content than us. So why wait, we of course can be merrier if we start applying the goodness from others. When we strive for goodness God appears. If you want others to be happy practice goodness, if you want to be happy practice Goodness.

2) Pride ( Have pride in not compromising with your beliefs) :
Pride can be considered as a virtue or a vice and is a very complex secondary emotion. Philosophers consider it to be a virtue and religion consider it a sin.
Your beliefs make you a worthy person. We have high respect for individuals who stick on to their ethos under any circumstances. They refuse to compromise with the enormities and rise high.
Lets gather strength in not bargaining with our beliefs and crossing the passage of immorality with Pride making it an enormous part of our life.

3) Gluttony ( Eat your own harsh words ):
There’s an old saying don’t bite more than you can chew but the new saying is “There’s nothing like biting off more than you can chew, and then chewing anyway.”
Gluttony, excessive eating, a disorder in the human body,a psychological complication and one of the deadliest sin labeled by mankind and the holy Bible.
When compared with human terminology of civilized living i think we all should suffer from gluttony and eat more of our bitter words rather than spitting them out on people & demean them. Then Gluttony wouldn’t be tagged as a sin.The more you eat your trenchant words the less you will cause hurt to people.

4) Sloth ( Be real lazy when it comes to hurting someone’s feelings ) :
Extreme laziness is the other name for Sloth & indolence is a little classy name for laziness. But either of them dont sound fresh. Laziness never brought anyone fame & goodwill. Lazy people are always looked down with worthlessness & considered sluggish & slacky.
But let this particular sin be a part of u in a positive manner, like be the laziest individual created by God to hurt anyone’s sentiments, emotions & feelings. You will contribute to making someone’s life little more bearable if you adopt this theory.

5) Lust ( Be lusty for your ambitions,the strong desire for success ) :
They say love starts with image & lust starts with sensation. Lust is a monstrous thing. Administer lust like a driving force to reach your aspirations. Ambition is a lust that is never quenched, but grows more inflamed and madder by enjoyment.

6) Wrath ( Hold anger for the immoral activities around you & actively revolt against it ) :
Wrath is extreme anger,beyond it, is revenge. Anger poisons your own system & blows out the lamp of the mind, But when used for a good cause brings revolution. Lets fill our mind with wrath against anti social activities,against injustice against corruption, malpractices ,criminality, atrocities and anything which is morally wrong. This labeled sin can actually be a virtue if used for the righteous cause.

7) Greed ( Be the greediest person on earth for knowledge for self & society betterment) :
Greed is an inappropriate expectation & inordinate desire for anything.There is enough in the world for everyone’s need but not enough for everyone’s greed,except for knowledge. Knowledge about anything never goes waste,it always upgrades a man’s intellect & caliber. Greed plays a vital role in achieving success, but for betterment & advancement of self & of the society,otherwise it collapses your senses & damages your worthiness and respect.











Envy, Pride, Gluttony, Sloth, Lust,Wrath & Greed when practiced in good faith & for the honourable cause change the whole meaning of the word.

Its always said ” Anything’s possible in Good Faith “.



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Beautiful Everything…….an attitude !!!!













Usually we subconsciously overlook the blessings in our life. We become so busy with our daily complaint checklist, that we need a constant reminder from any source to count our merits. We crib about waking up early, the boring job, the demanding boss, the workplace, Life not treating us well,how god is unfair & does not respond to our appeals ( Plz mind, God is not a cosmic bell boy for whom we can press a button to get things done ) and many a things in our life which does not satisfy our soul and leaves us discontent.

I am no exception to this human psychology either, i feel the same stuff everyday, if things doesn’t happen or appear as i wish, i crib, sulk & curse my life, my creator, my circumstances and i use every possible probability to blame, and you know what, it makes me feel more terrible & awful and our tendency is to stretch this state of mind for a fairly longer time.
But, only if things & situations favour us or something happens as per our desire then we rejoice, we feel lucky we celebrate, make a general statement “I thank you God ” and move on, that’s it!!!!. And after a while we come back to our basics to the original mode of dissatisfaction. We don’t stretch this happiness quotient for a longer time, its short term & plain momentary. Human psyche i guess!!!!!!!

So after reengineering my thought process, i came to an agreement with myself, that i would count my blessings each day and remind myself to look and cautiously look at the good things in my life or of my existence. Few of them i have jotted down which are very very common in all of our lives.

1) Waking up every morning listening to mom’s voice ( Gods grace )
2) Breakfast time ( mom made, real yummm !!!! )
3) Listening music while commuting to office, ( blessed to afford an mp3).
4) Feeling the breeze on my face, ( proof that my senses are healthy )
5) Chatting with my boss, a very cheerful female, ( lucky me )
6) Sitting at my workstation,checking mails,planning the agenda ( i am employed & have work )
7) Meeting my colleagues, ( variety of colorful humans )
8) Eating lunch & snacks & the junks, (opportunities to share)
9) Never ending discussion about job, life, problems, happiness etc etc. ( hopes to keep life moving )
10 Etc Etc Etc Etc………………..

Everyday i mange to spend some time with few of my close friends whether on the phone or personally and feel sanctification. They add energy, blush,tint & worth to my life. Family ,friends,colleagues ,people around you,animals ,birds trees add value to your personality, caliber & experience, that’s so wonderful. Just imagine for a while your life without them, dull, boring ,plain and lonely, just you you and only you. What are you gonna do with yourself all the time, just imagine it for real…………No one to talk to, relate to, blame to (kidding!!!!), discuss to, share to and for so many things.

Our family adds strength to our life,
Friends add brightness,
An enemy adds valor
A partner adds love & warmth
Employment adds confidence & hope
Technology adds convenience & pleasure
Good work adds confidence, & optimism
Mistakes add experience
Mother nature adds faith in the creator,
Animals & birds add kindness
Trees & soil add perseverance,
Difficulties add patience & courage
Opportunities add spirit & enthusiasm
Unfortunate people around add generosity
Fortunate people add vigor
Democracy adds freedom
Difficult & complex people add tolerance
Cheerful people add colour










So you see there is more add and less minus in our lives but, only if you think so, otherwise there’s everything yet nothing.
Whenever you’re in conflict with someone or something, there is one factor that can make the difference between damaging it and deepening it. That factor is attitude.”

You spend life anyway you wish, but you only spend it once.



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